Today we are deconstructing our conversation with Valerie Friedlander, who is raising two boys and a business. She is a certified life coach specializing in helping entrepreneurial Moms break though their self-defeating patterns and take confident action towards their goals. If you want to listen to the full episode, be sure to download Episode 22 of the Mom Deconstructed Podcast. This week we break down relationship struggles across the board: with partners, friends, community, and ourselves.

Listen as Kate & Liz discuss:

  • Being in survival mode in their partnerships.
  • Touch buckets: is there truth to it being “out touched”?
  • What date nights look like these days with three kids.
  • Where we find our community.
  • Awkwardness when we are in new situations and forming new relationships.
  • How to let go of what others may think or say about you as a mother.

Links from Show:

Episode 22: Valerie Friedlander, Mom of two learning to get “unstuck”

The Five Love Languages: by Gary Chapman

Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel

Questions to Ask your Partner for At-Home Date Night (Psychology Today)

Episode 17: Making Mom Friends, Bridging the Gap between Polite Greetings to actual Conversation

Blog Post: Why do Other Peoples Careless Comments Cause us so much Stress?


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