This week we are talking with author, Cathryn Monro. Her life, training and work combine her creative drive, a commitment to meaningful education, self-inquiry and group learning processes, and yoga and meditation practices. She wrote Spilt Milk Yoga: A Guided Self-Inquiry To Finding Your Own Wisdom, Joy, And Purpose Through Motherhood. Cathryn lives with her husband and two daughters in Wellington, New Zealand.  She rates mothering as by far the most challenging, creative, important and fulfilling of jobs. Listen to Cathryn as she talks about the importance of practicing self inquiry and acknowledging our own feelings, not just our children’s. 

Listen as Cathryn shares:

  • When do we intervene as parents vs. letting children be independent.
  • The struggle is worth it when your children are small, rather than when they’re teenagers.
  • The value of being consistent-ish.
  • Her wish list of what she knew at the beginning of her parenting journey.
  • Practicing self-inquiry as a mother.
  • Setting and keeping our intentions.
  • The importance of stopping and breathing.
  • Our children can be our allies.
  • Importance of creativity in her life.



“It is a bit of a hamster wheel, but the beauty of that is we get to practice a lot.”  – Cathryn Monro

“We are so focused on managing our children’s tantrums, but what about our own internal tantrums and storms? How do I stay steady and hold my own experiences as valid?” – Cathryn Monro

“There is no other relationship where we put someone else’s needs above our own.” – Cathryn Monro

“We keep our eyes on where we are going, with knowledge of where we’ve been because that assists us, so that we keep uplifting our purpose.” – Cathryn Monro


Spilt Milk Yoga: A Guided Self-Inquiry To Finding Your Own Wisdom, Joy, And Purpose Through Motherhood (Cathryn’s Book)

Cathryn’s Facebook Group: Spilt Milk Yoga

Of Course I Love You, Now Go to Your Room by Diane Levy (Book)



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Cathryn’s Book: Spilt Milk Yoga

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