This week we are talking with Lisa Sugarman. She writes the nationally syndicated humor column It Is What It Is and is the author of LIFE: It Is What It Is, Untying Parent Anxiety: 18 Myths That Have You in Knots—And How to Get Free, and How To Raise Perfectly Imperfect Kids—And Be Ok With It.  Lisa is a regular contributor on GrownAndFlown, This Mama Wines, MommingHubb, More Content Now, Wickedlocal.com, and Care.com. Her work has also appeared in TIME Magazine’s TIME for Parents, on LittleThings, Mamalode, 50 Shades of Aging, and on PBS Kids. She’s the founder and moderator of The Vomit Booth, the popular Facebook parenting group where parents go to bond over the madness of parenthood. Lisa lives with her husband and two daughters just north of Boston in a tiny coastal town of twenty thousand people crammed onto a teensy peninsula. Lisa shares the importance of accepting that we will make mistakes as parents, tips for letting go of the judgement we all feel as parents, and taking a breath before reacting.  

Listen as Lisa shares how: 

  • Older children struggle with showing affection & love as she would like.
  • Damaging it is for parents to set high expectations for their children.
  • It’s ok to make mistakes as parents.
  • Where the judgement on our parenting comes from.
  • Tips on letting go of the judgement we feel.
  • The importance of taking a breath when feeling under pressure.
  • Attitude is the only thing we have control over.
  • Experiencing Pride with her daughter was one of her best parenting days.
  • Importance of shutting your mouth and walking away. 

QUOTABLES:

“We all wish we had more of a sense of presence.” – Lisa Sugarman

“None of us are perfect and we aren’t supposed to be, and that’s the key.  But…so many people ignore that or miss that all together. At our best, we are perfectly imperfect.” – Lisa Sugarman 

“Our mistakes are often equally as valuable as our wins.  Expect that those mistakes will come, and they do, they usually come really hard and really fast.  We need to be nimble, most definitely. It’s under the surface of all the meltdowns, the screw ups, and the embarrassing moments that we usually find the most clarity.” – Lisa Sugarman

“Take a deep breath when your kid comes to you and has something to offer or announce or declare.  Take that deep, really long breath, because in that moment you can actually bite your tongue and say something stupid & that you will regret.” Lisa Sugarman  

LINKS FROM SHOW:

How To Raise Perfectly Imperfect Kids—And Be Ok With It by Lisa Sugarman (Book)

It Is What It Is: Lisa’s Nationally Syndicated humor column

MORE FROM LISA:

Lisa’s Website

It Is What It Is: Lisa’s Nationally Syndicated humor column

LIFE: It Is What It Is, Untying Parent Anxiety: 18 Myths That Have You in Knots—And How to Get Free by Lisa Sugarman (Book)

How To Raise Perfectly Imperfect Kids—And Be Ok With It by Lisa Sugarman (Book)

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The Vomit Booth – Lisa’s Facebook Group

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