This week we are talking with Debra Fox Gansenberg. Debra Fox Gansenberg, MSW, LICSW is the founder and owner of New Beginnings Counseling Service P.C. located around the North Shore of Boston. She has a 25-year history working in the mental health field as a skilled clinical psychotherapist and business owner specializing in individuals, couples, group, and family therapy. Debra has also been the Director of School Services for NBCS for 20+ years and she has customized and implemented school-based counseling services for several schools, Pre-K through 12th grade. She received her counseling degree from Simmons College School of Social Work. She lives north of Boston with her husband and three sons.  In addition, she recently released the book How To Raise Perfectly Imperfect Kids—And Be Ok With It with Lisa Sugarman.  Debra shares her insight on what the biggest struggles of today’s parents are and ways to reduce anxiety & stress in our children.

Listen as Debra shares how: 

  • She struggles when her own children struggle.
  • Balancing “it all” doesn’t get easier as your kids get older.
  • She’s changing the dialogue around parenting. 
  • Technology & social media perpetuates the idea of the “perfect” parent.
  • Some children aren’t ready to handle the technology we are handing them.
  • It’s ok to reset limits & rules with your children.
  • The downsides of busy-ness for both parents & children.
  • “Trimming the fat” can help decrease the busy-ness.
  • Tips to parent anxious kids.
  • No Behavior is a result of inconsistency. 
  • Pitfalls of lawn mower parenting. 



“Mom is only as happy as her saddest child.” – Debra Fox Gansenberg

“We need to change the dialogue around parenting.  It’s ok not to be perfect, because no one is.” – Debra Fox Gansenberg

“Be careful about how much technology you hand to a young child, because we need to make sure they can handle the technology we are giving them.” – Debra Fox Gansenberg

“We maybe don’t make all the best decisions and we might make decisions that don’t have the best outcome, but it doesn’t mean we can’t press the reset button and try to change it.” – Debra Fox Gansenberg


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