This week we are talking with Hope O. Baker  After placing her newborn son for adoption in 2013, Hope O Baker struggled with depression, addiction, and overcoming the stigma that surrounds birthmothers. In her first book, Finding Hope: A Birthmother’s Journey Into the Light, she shares her story of a successful, open adoption—and all the heartache and light that came along the way. Hope is a passionate advocate for those on all sides of adoption. Hope visits her son regularly, and she currently lives with her loving partner and her wonderful stepkids. Listen as Hope shares her story of being a birth mother and the consequences of that decision. 


Listen as Hope shares:

  • Learning she was pregnant at the age of 21.
  • Closed v. open adoption.
  • Why she chose an open adoption.
  • Finding her son’s forever family.
  • Her birth story with her son.
  • How her needs changed after her son was born.
  • Spiraling out of control after her son’s birth.
  • Her reasons for writing her book.
  • Stigmas of being a birth mother.



“Coming to that decision as a mother, that you can’t give your child what they deserve is one of the most heartbreaking things.” – Hope O. Baker


“You don’t know how you’re going to feel when your child is born.”- Hope O. Baker


“This was the best decision for him, but the worst decision for me.” – Hope O. Baker


“In adoption, somebody has to lose a child for someone to gain a child.  It’s so conflicting.” – Hope O. Baker



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