This week we are talking with Margaret Quinlan.  Margaret M. Quinlan is an associate professor in the department of communication studies at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte. She explores how communication creates, resists and transforms knowledges about bodies. She critiques power structures in order to empower individuals who are marginalized inside and outside of healthcare systems. She authored approximately 40 journal articles, 17 book chapters and co-produced documentaries in a regional Emmy award-winning series. Maggie and Bethany Johnson’s book, “You’re Doing it Wrong! investigates the storied history of expertise around mothering in the media, from the newspapers, magazines, doctors’ records and personal papers of the nineteenth century to today’s websites, Facebook groups, and Instagram feeds. Johnson and Quinlan find surprising parallels between today’s mothering experts and their Victorian counterparts, but they also explore how social media has placed unprecedented pressures on new mothers wrestling with familiar concerns and crises from pre-conception through early toddlerhood. Maggie discusses her research that led to the book, the ways social media can positively influence mothering, and, of course, the negatives social media can bring. 

Listen as Maggie shares: 

  • Struggling being a working mom when her role model was a stay at home.
  • Communication breakdown between healthcare professionals and mothers.
  • Modern mothering is very similar to mothering generations ago.
  • Social Media can be a good thing, too.
  • The Ideal of the “Perfect mom” is unrealistic.
  • Pitfalls of following mom influencers on social media.
  • Social Media can be a safe place for women to find support.



“We now have access to so many more voices than our parents did.” – Maggie Quinlan

“There’s something way bigger happening in that post than someone is willing to admit.” – Maggie Quinlan

“There’s so much pressure on mothers to raise these perfect children.  That is an ideal none of us can achieve.” – Maggie Quinlan

“Being a mom doesn’t have to be your sole identity.” – Maggie Quinlan



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